Top 5 Reasons Why I Just CAN'T

When it comes to procrastination or spewing out reasons why I can't do something... I've got lots of them. Lot's of reasons.... er, excuses I mean. Because let's face it, they aren't really "reasons" but rather "excuses". 

Here are some of my most frequently used excuses. Some of them I tend to apply to various different issues. Others may only be used once in a while. But the bottom line is... they are EXCUSES. And excuses inhibit PROGRESS!

1. I don't have the money. This is one of my "reasons" for LOADS of stuff! But the fact is, when it comes right down to it... when I DID have the money, chances are I just used one of the many other reasons. Sure, I know money can certainly help with many things... but there are also so many things that can be done without money. And it always seems like when I DO have the money, then I don't have the TIME... or ENERGY.. or pick any of the other reasons... 

I've learned from Tony Robbins actually, that what is more important than the RESOURCES is the RESOURCEFULNESS within myself. I've had to change my own mindset. When I go clothes shopping or furniture shopping, I like to go to Thrift stores and places like that. (even when I have money). Do you know why? Because to me, finding a deal is like a game. When I can find the same or similar trendy clothing in a consignment shop for 1/10th of the cost, it makes me feel as though I've "won" in some crazy way! So, I've begun to apply that same concept with other things- like expanding my business, or doing family activities.  

2. I'm not that outgoing. Recently, I was advised by my reader to put myself "out there more". More specifically, he told me to get out and meet with two specific groups of people in order to expand my business offerings. As soon as he mentioned that, all the "red lights" went off in my head! How could I possibly meet these people? I'm not outgoing. I'm not even that friendly! It was easy for him to say! HE'S outgoing! HE'S friendly! 

But once again, it's just an excuse. Let's face it; I CAN be outgoing... and I CAN be friendly... it just requires some stepping out of my comfort zone to do so. I know I wasn't given these gifts just to keep them hidden within myself. They are meant to be shared with others and used for the highest good. Wallowing in this excuse is actually quite selfish. Well, that's what I tell myself anyway. I am training my mind to view and equate being outgoing and friendly as being UN-selfish.

3. I'm too tired. Well, cry me a river... Aren't we ALL tired?!?! Yes. Most people are tired. Oh, but don't let my cry of "tiredness" fool you. It is not for lack of sleep. No, this "tired" feeling actually comes from stress. Digging further, my stress is often a result of "struggle" and "lack of money". So, does that make it valid? Nah. Not really. Sure I can sit in that emotional state and vibrational state for all of those reasons. But, if I sit there, I'll only get more of the same thing coming back at me! 

So, I do rest when I'm tired. But, I really try to get back up on the horse as soon as possible. Breaking this down helps me to see that raising my own vibration will help to manifest more money into my life. How you say? Well, for one thing, like attracts like. With a higher vibration I am able to be more outgoing and friendly... and in that way I can make better connections with people... people who may one day BE clients or want to REFER clients. 

4. I just don't have enough time. It's true. I've got to clean, cook, take care of kids, and so much more. Where would I ever find the time to do that "thing"? The fact of the matter is that we are each given 24 hours in a day. It's up to us to use them for our highest good! Yes, I still have to do the mundane things in life. But, if I apply my "game" technique to it, I can challenge myself to get those mundane tasks done in less time. 

The other thing that helps me manage my time better is to create lists. It's old school but it works for me! Some days I have to carry over tasks that didn't get done. Trust me when I tell you that after a while, I get sick of seeing that 'task' on my list and that's when I make a more conscious effort to get that "thing" OFF my list!!!

5. I may not be well received. What will people think of me? Oh, this is a beauty!! Classic bull-shite right here! It is correct that nobody likes rejection. It hurts. It makes me shrink back into my proverbial hole like some kind of tortoise. 

But, do you know what I realize when I reflect on this "reason"? The people that I meet and come into contact with .. the ones who are the MOST flamboyant and outspoken and WEIRD... are ABSOLUTELY the people I am the most attracted to! The people who are different and authentic and put themselves out there... those are the people I resonate with! And if I resonate with them, and others resonate with them... then surely there will be people who resonate with me. Me as my "different", authentic and WEIRD self!

What are some of YOUR "reasons" (AKA excuses!) that seem to pop up in your life? What are some ways that you make conscious efforts to blast through them? Share your thoughts in the comments below! 

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Are Your Ducks in a Row?

Do you have you're ducks in a row?

People seem to always say things like.. "you've got to have all your ducks in a row." Well, sadly (maybe), all my ducks are rarely in a row. In fact, they seem to be like little duck ninjas just rambling all over the place most days! 

Oh, sure, there are those days when I manage to make a list and actually check everything off on it by the end of the day... but those days aren't typical by any means. In fact, many days I seem to be operating in a more "aimless" fashion.

Getting into a routine

I've found that when I try to keep a routine it seems to help me to "keep those ducks in a row" a little bit better! 

But what kind of routine, you ask..

I start my morning kind of early; getting up to get the kids on the bus. And I have always hated waking up like this. Waking up abruptly to the sound of an obnoxious alarm clock. It makes me crazy! If I am dreaming, this makes it really hard to remember the dream and write it down. So, I've gotten in the habit lately of going back to bed for a few hours. 

So, when I wake up from my "second sleep" ;) I am able to focus on any dreams and start off with a meditation. This keeps me grounded and centered for the day ahead. This isn't anything long, drawn out or even guided... just a simple meditation that I do myself before getting out of the bed. 

The next part of my morning ritual that I've found helps make my day more productive and keeps those ducks in check; is setting my intentions for the day. For me, that means writing it down. I suppose this is like a list... but for me; if I don't write it down I'll forget all about it. When it's written in front of me; even on a piece of scrap paper; I am looking at it frequently during the day. Much like a mental mantra. 

All that is good, but now I need to make sure I've got the energy and motivation to work that intention! The best way I can do that is to raise my vibration. And the way I do that is by listening to uplifting music. There are lots of other ways to raise your vibration but that one seems to be most effective for me. Another way is by exercising... but I'm not a fan. I will, at times, do my sit ups really quickly to get a vibrational boost... but at this point it's still more of a chore in my mind than something enjoyable! 

Doing these three steps helps me to keep my ducks in a row, get things accomplished during my day and keep me focused on the bigger picture. And on those days when my ducks are just not cooperating; that's okay... I take those crazy days and allow my soul to rest. I let my mind have the day off. 

What are some of the ways that you keep your ducks in a row everyday? Do you have a routine or morning ritual that helps you? Share your thoughts in the comments below! 

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