Healing the Inside to Manifest on the Outside

When it comes to manifesting the life we want, it's important to realize that many times our own mind, inner thoughts and beliefs, and even our feelings on a particular subject; may in fact be presenting a blockage of sorts. 

Let me give you an example. If I want to manifest financial success in my life I may use positive affirmations daily. I will also make sure that those statements that I am putting out into the universe are very clear and accurately paint a picture of what it is I am seeking. And, because I am so well versed in this whole manifestation process, I will even make sure that I am really FEELING the emotions that I will expect to feel once my reality manifests. In fact, I will be doing everything to make sure that my vibration matches the vibration of that which I'm trying to manifest. 

But, what if I've got some underlying issues from when I was growing up that I haven't yet dealt with? Hmmm.. what do I mean? Well, let's say that growing up I was ingrained with the belief that society is classed into the rich and the poor, with no in between. What if, growing up, I was always told that in order to make money you had to work very hard for it?

Even though, as an adult, I have read and educated myself enough to know that those are not factual statements; their message continues to resonate within the very cells of my body. My mind will tell you otherwise. My words will show that success can be easy because the universe will allow whatever you desire into your life as soon as you are a vibrational match. But, deep within my soul, my cellular makeup doubts all of this. Deep within, that very deep seeded thought that one has to work harder to make more money or that I will always be among the lower half of society  in terms of success, continues to simmer. 

On the other hand, I may not have those ingrained issues from my upbringing. I may, however, still have them deep rooted within my psyche from past lives. For those that subscribe to the theory of past lives, we know that when we come into this incarnation, we don't bring with us the memories of our past lives, but we DO bring with us parts of those lives... particularly parts that we still need to work on! So, while I may have successfully dealt with the issues of my upbringing in this incarnation, I may still have the same or similar issues that I've brought with me from a past life. 

It's important to recognize these potential blockages. One can also refer to them as LIMITING BELIEFS. And I am certain there are other names that can be attributed to them. Looking at your life and the areas you are doing manifestation work is a great place to start. Next, you'll want to determine if you have any limiting beliefs in that area. As a Diviner and Healer, I often use a pendulum or muscle testing to figure out which ones may be impacting me. This can be done in one setting, or repeated over time as you consider additional beliefs that may be limiting you that you hadn't thought of. 

After I have determined which limiting beliefs may be affecting my manifestation in this lifetime, I move on to CLEARING them from my system. There are many ways to do this; some even saying that their method can clear the limiting belief in one sitting. The methods I tend to use are Pendulum Healing (which is a form of dowsing) and Karmic Reiki Treatments. Both have proven to be significantly effective in clearing the negative beliefs that I've accumulated throughout lifetimes.  

I challenge you to identify some of YOUR limiting beliefs that may be holding you back from being your highest self! Heal the inside and watch the changes that happen on the outside!! 

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Manifesting and Acceptance... And how to screw that shit up!

As many of you know by now, I am a big believer in manifesting. By this I mean that I strongly believe in the power of positive affirmations, aligning your emotional experience and vibration to that which you desire to manifest in your life, and trusting in the universal response to acknowledge my desires and formulate them into my reality. 

Sounds totally crazy to anyone who isn't familiar with the whole manifesting process... but I've seen it work. Not just once, but many times over. And not just in others, but in my own life as well. 

Now, I've written about manifesting in the past and tried to explain the process in the easiest way I could at the time. I prefer that concepts... any concept... be broken down to the simplest format possible. In this way, it makes it easier for just about anyone to comprehend and master. 

Part of manifesting is using positive affirmations. But those alone will not get you what you desire. I can state every day that I have a million bucks, but that statement alone isn't going to cut it. I need to add substance. That substance is in the form of our emotions. I need to feel it. Feel what it WILL feel like when I have a million bucks. Feel it so deeply and so clearly that I KNOW that feeling and am comfortable with that feeling. And certainly we want to express gratitude to the universe for what we are manifesting... because we KNOW it IS coming. 

Now, as you simmer on that part of the manifestation process for a bit... let's take a look at some of the other parts. Some of the parts that can fuck up the whole process.....  
Because as much as I am able to manifest in my life... I am equally as good at fucking that shit up royally! 

The first way that I tend to screw up my manifestation is when I don't TRUST!
Let's look at this in this way... say I give someone a job to do... and then, before they are even finished, I take it back because maybe I feel like they aren't getting it done fast enough or maybe I'm just a control freak. Either way, I haven't even given them enough time to show me that they CAN get the job done! It's much the same with the universe. We have to trust that the universe CAN get that job done! And then give the universe TIME to actually do the work! 

The next big way to screw up the manifestation process is to allow FEAR to set in... Oh, not you, eh? Let's just see... 

How many times have you tried to manifest a loftier goal... only to have an option present itself that scared the shit out of you? Or... you've been working on manifesting something kind of lofty and an opportunity presented itself... and you went with it... following through... but all the while had this nagging sense of inadequacy and fear that kept creeping in?

It's said that there are really only two emotions: love and fear. And it's that fear that rears its ugly head in the form of anxiety, nervousness, shame, guilt and so many more of the "undesirable" emotions... 

It's so important that we face that fear, acknowledge it and push through it! "hey, fear... thanks for showing up... but you're not needed at the moment!" GTFO FEAR!!!

We can't deny it exists. But we can choose how we respond to it. And since it comes from within US... we can send it to the back seat! Now... even if you push through the fear... we can't let it linger even a little bit. Say you are going to do a TEDx talk. You realize the universe granted you this amazing opportunity! You've prepared for this and now the time has come. Of course fear decides to step up to the plate. Well, you know you're going to push through it and get on that stage anyway. BUT... if you let that fear linger even a bit... it could sabotage your whole speech! Your nerves and anxiety may show through in your words or your lack of enthusiasms. Because when you're focusing on fear... you aren't focusing on your objective. 

The third way we can screw up our manifestations is when we don't have a clear objective. Putting it out to the universe that you want a "good life" is too broad and too subjective. A good life to one person may be a simple cottage by the sea with a wood burning stove and herbs hanging from the ceiling. A good life to someone else may be more along the lines of a Mercedes in the driveway and a ten bedroom house. We need to explain a little bit more when it comes to manifesting. 

But, with that being said; we don't want to be SO specific that we limit the options that the universe has to bring us those desires!  If I wanted to manifest $5,000; I would have better luck simply trying to manifest that money without putting limitations on HOW that money is to come. In other words, I may choose to AVOID saying "I will manifest $5,000 from my job" because that would limit where that money comes from. 

What are some of the ways that YOU tend to mess up YOUR manifestation process? It's okay... you can share them here! Throw them in the comments below!

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Top 5 Reasons Why I Just CAN'T

When it comes to procrastination or spewing out reasons why I can't do something... I've got lots of them. Lot's of reasons.... er, excuses I mean. Because let's face it, they aren't really "reasons" but rather "excuses". 

Here are some of my most frequently used excuses. Some of them I tend to apply to various different issues. Others may only be used once in a while. But the bottom line is... they are EXCUSES. And excuses inhibit PROGRESS!

1. I don't have the money. This is one of my "reasons" for LOADS of stuff! But the fact is, when it comes right down to it... when I DID have the money, chances are I just used one of the many other reasons. Sure, I know money can certainly help with many things... but there are also so many things that can be done without money. And it always seems like when I DO have the money, then I don't have the TIME... or ENERGY.. or pick any of the other reasons... 

I've learned from Tony Robbins actually, that what is more important than the RESOURCES is the RESOURCEFULNESS within myself. I've had to change my own mindset. When I go clothes shopping or furniture shopping, I like to go to Thrift stores and places like that. (even when I have money). Do you know why? Because to me, finding a deal is like a game. When I can find the same or similar trendy clothing in a consignment shop for 1/10th of the cost, it makes me feel as though I've "won" in some crazy way! So, I've begun to apply that same concept with other things- like expanding my business, or doing family activities.  

2. I'm not that outgoing. Recently, I was advised by my reader to put myself "out there more". More specifically, he told me to get out and meet with two specific groups of people in order to expand my business offerings. As soon as he mentioned that, all the "red lights" went off in my head! How could I possibly meet these people? I'm not outgoing. I'm not even that friendly! It was easy for him to say! HE'S outgoing! HE'S friendly! 

But once again, it's just an excuse. Let's face it; I CAN be outgoing... and I CAN be friendly... it just requires some stepping out of my comfort zone to do so. I know I wasn't given these gifts just to keep them hidden within myself. They are meant to be shared with others and used for the highest good. Wallowing in this excuse is actually quite selfish. Well, that's what I tell myself anyway. I am training my mind to view and equate being outgoing and friendly as being UN-selfish.

3. I'm too tired. Well, cry me a river... Aren't we ALL tired?!?! Yes. Most people are tired. Oh, but don't let my cry of "tiredness" fool you. It is not for lack of sleep. No, this "tired" feeling actually comes from stress. Digging further, my stress is often a result of "struggle" and "lack of money". So, does that make it valid? Nah. Not really. Sure I can sit in that emotional state and vibrational state for all of those reasons. But, if I sit there, I'll only get more of the same thing coming back at me! 

So, I do rest when I'm tired. But, I really try to get back up on the horse as soon as possible. Breaking this down helps me to see that raising my own vibration will help to manifest more money into my life. How you say? Well, for one thing, like attracts like. With a higher vibration I am able to be more outgoing and friendly... and in that way I can make better connections with people... people who may one day BE clients or want to REFER clients. 

4. I just don't have enough time. It's true. I've got to clean, cook, take care of kids, and so much more. Where would I ever find the time to do that "thing"? The fact of the matter is that we are each given 24 hours in a day. It's up to us to use them for our highest good! Yes, I still have to do the mundane things in life. But, if I apply my "game" technique to it, I can challenge myself to get those mundane tasks done in less time. 

The other thing that helps me manage my time better is to create lists. It's old school but it works for me! Some days I have to carry over tasks that didn't get done. Trust me when I tell you that after a while, I get sick of seeing that 'task' on my list and that's when I make a more conscious effort to get that "thing" OFF my list!!!

5. I may not be well received. What will people think of me? Oh, this is a beauty!! Classic bull-shite right here! It is correct that nobody likes rejection. It hurts. It makes me shrink back into my proverbial hole like some kind of tortoise. 

But, do you know what I realize when I reflect on this "reason"? The people that I meet and come into contact with .. the ones who are the MOST flamboyant and outspoken and WEIRD... are ABSOLUTELY the people I am the most attracted to! The people who are different and authentic and put themselves out there... those are the people I resonate with! And if I resonate with them, and others resonate with them... then surely there will be people who resonate with me. Me as my "different", authentic and WEIRD self!

What are some of YOUR "reasons" (AKA excuses!) that seem to pop up in your life? What are some ways that you make conscious efforts to blast through them? Share your thoughts in the comments below! 

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I "Want", I "Need", OR I "Have"??

The Law of Attraction and all that Hocus Pocus

I wanted to talk a bit today about setting your intention out into the universe and the law of attraction. I have heard so many people talk about how the law of attraction is pure rubbish lately. This made me really sit down and reflect on it. In fact, I actually meditated on it and was given (reminded of actually) some valuable insight from my spirit guides that I would like to share with you here.

I believe very strongly in the ability to manifest and I also believe very strongly in the law of attraction. What you put out there WILL come back to you at the same level of vibration that you are working in... whether it's good or bad, in your best interest or not. 

When you repetitively talk about how your job sucks... the universe will happily oblige you; though not likely in the way you anticipated! I've seen many instances where people (myself included) have spoken those kind of words regularly, only to find themselves fired or "let go" with no further job prospects. Guess what? That sucky job you were talking about... the universe has removed that from your life for you! 

I "Want"

When we go around saying or thinking "I want...." this, that or the other thing in our lives; we are putting that intention out into the universe with the idea that it will manifest itself. 

The problem with "I want" is that what you are putting out there is what you will get... more "want". 

I "Need"

The same holds true when we put out to the universe the intention that starts with "I need....". The universe already knows what you need. No point in perpetuating that concept! For example, if I put out my intention that "I need a new car"; what I am really putting out is the constant "need" for a car. And that is exactly what I will get back... continued NEED for a car. 

I "Have"

On the other hand, when we put out to the universe the intention with the phrase "I have" we will attract the same! The universal law of attraction states that "like attracts like". So, it stands to reason that if I put out the intention that "I have a reliable and attractive vehicle that I am blessed with", I will be putting out that intention on the same vibrational level as that which I am truly seeking... a reliable and attractive vehicle! 


I have a client who had come to me in complete frustration over this. She told me she has been putting her intention out into the universe for a solid relationship for the past year and nothing has ever manifested for her! She was at her wits end! We discussed it a bit further and I asked her to tell me what it was she was "putting out there". Her mantra was "I want a committed man who will love me and honor me for a long-term, lifetime romantic relationship". She was a step ahead of the game in making her intention specific; but what was she actually putting out into the universe? The constant feeling of WANT. She was indeed manifesting exactly what she put out there! She had a constant WANT for the past year! We changed her mantra a bit to say "I HAVE" instead, and I am quite confident that this will change her outcome sooner rather than later!

So What's the Take Home Message Here?

In order for the law of attraction to be effective, it's super important HOW we phrase our intentions! Bearing in mind that words have meaning and words have POWER! Does it feel like you're lying somewhat? Probably! But in a way, as the old adage goes: FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT. In other words, put that intention out into the universe as though it has already manifested and REALLY feel the emotion of what it WILL BE like when it DOES manifest! 

Keep your vibration at the same level of that which you want to bring INTO your life. And above all, express GRATITUDE and APPRECIATION for all that you have and all that is to come!

What are some of the things that you've ATTRACTED into YOUR life with the Law of Attraction? Were they good things or have you had some experiences with inadvertently attracting the more negative things? Share your experiences in the comments below!!

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How I Manifested $5,000 in 3 Weeks!

So, I'm going to share a story with you that I hope will inspire you today to manifest in your own life!

About a month ago, I set out to manifest the sum of $5,000 in three weeks time. I chose the amount at random and intended for this money to come from "out of the blue". So, this would be over and above our "regular" income. 

How did I go about it?

The first thing I did was verbalize my intention out loud to the universe as though it had already happened! "I received $5,000 in three weeks from out of nowhere!" (Yeah, I probably sounded like a crazy person... but I was alone at home so I only seemed crazy to the dog and cats!) I also said it out loud to my little Ganesha statue actually!

Next, I wrote it down. This solidified it for me! But I didn't put this statement on the frig or anywhere I could see it. I just wrote it down on a piece of paper and put it aside. In fact, hadn't even looked at it after that! 

Then I took a bill from my Ancestor Money (fake money) and stuffed that inside a clear, blue cup. This was to represent that the money would come out of the "clear blue". 

I set out my Hotei Buddha facing my front door, instructing him to bring money INTO our home and set up my little frog facing inward, instructing him to keep money IN our home. 

So, How did it work??

Well, that first week I ended up with several unexpected readings that brought in about $500. I was ecstatic at that point... mostly thinking about how my business was growing! But it didn't end there! 

In the second week my husband ended up coming home with an extra check in the amount of $4,000. When I asked him what it was from he explained that the bank had funded additional money for their project and this was his portion of it. This was weird, and definitely "out of the blue" because this bank has been notorious for UNDER funding if anything! I counted this as another WIN! So, it had been two weeks and we had successfully manifested almost all of what I had originally intended! At this point I was just thrilled that I was able to manifest THAT! 

In the third week we ended up getting a check in the mail from an old insurance policy that was closed; netting us another $1,200! (Almost didn't even check the mail that day either!)

The Power of Manifesting

So, you see, the power of the mind and our ability to manifest is so strong!  I was able to manifest even more than what my original intention was for! What was the key? I set the intention, verbalized it, wrote it and then LET IT GO. I didn't even think about my little manifestation plan for that month! Totally forgot about it... (until the second week anyway!)

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Love and Light and all that!!

~Heather

Reiki and Your Cells

A long, long time ago in a galaxy far away, there lived a man and that man's name was Emoto... Dr. Emoto in fact. Have you heard of him? He did several experiments showing the affects that both negative and positive intentions had on water molecules. 

"The results strongly suggested that positive vibrations, whether it was from images, music, words or prayer, affected the molecular structure of the water, changing each one into something beautiful. It was also found that negative vibrations caused the water molecules to become disfigured."   One World Healing.

Much like Dr. Emoto's studies, there have been studies done that show the results of two different jars of rice given different intentions and having different words spoken to them for several days. The rice which was spoken to in a positive way stayed healthy. The rice jar that was spoken to in a negative manner showed signs of decay and rot. 

Debunk the Debunkers

Now when you begin to do some further research into this phenomenon you will find multiple sources indicating that Dr. Emoto's research may be considered psuedo-science. And right now, in this day and age, it may very well be. But bear in mind, there was a time when theories about a round earth were considered ludicrous. And it was only in our lifetime that those who thought that an atom could be split were considered a little off their rockers! 

The fact of the matter is, we are all made up of cells and energy; energy that has the ability to affect other energetic beings. Thus, when you send out positive energy to someone, it can affect change at the molecular level. You can check out the "science" of it here: Sarah Petrunos Shamanism


If positive affirmations, thoughts and energy sent to a glass of water can alter those water molecules; just imagine the effect it can have on the human body. Making changes at the cellular level is the basis of healing; both physically and emotionally. These are the building blocks of our entire being. 

Several months ago, my own husband came home with a huge gash on his finger - the result of an injury on the construction site. Now, most times, I will be the last person to tell anyone to seek medical treatment for anything if I am confident that I can fix it up at home with natural remedies! But, in this case I wasn't sure that gash would close up without stitches; so I encouraged him to go to the walk in clinic at least. Of course, he refused. Just had me bandage it up with a clean dry dressing and change it daily. I didn't even use antibiotic ointment; only because I didn't have any as I recall. What I did manage to do was three 30 minute sessions of Reiki healing to the injured finger that week. Remarkably, that finger is completely healed and you can't even tell there was ever an injury. 

Do you have a Reiki Healing or Energy Healing story you can share? I'd love to hear about it!! Please share in the comments below! 

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Are You Attracting The Good You Want into YOUR Life?

Manifesting Shmanifesting!! Why can't I get what I want?!?!

Well, let's start with these two questions to break this down a bit...

1. What sort of things do you WANT in your life?

and then...

2. What sort of things are you actually GETTING in your life?


If these two answers are not the same, then "Lucy, you got some splainin' to do!"

You see, the things that you WANT in your life, should most definitely be the things that you GET in your life! After all, you deserve it. And even more than that; we have the POWER to achieve it! 

The fact is, it's all about energy, thoughts and emotions... all combined in a delicate balance...

We are all familiar with the concept of positive affirmations. Think positive thoughts and positive stuff will flow your way, right? Wrong. There's a bit more to it than that. Positive affirmations are wonderful, don't get me wrong. In fact, we should most definitely have our set of positive affirmations that we ingrain in our minds regularly. Our "mantra's" if you will. This is only a part of the equation though. 

What you need to go along with the positive affirmations (brain work) is the emotional component (heart work). This means that you need to really feel what it is like as though you already have that which you desire. 

So, here is where some visualization begins to come into play. Close your eyes and really visualize that you already have this thing/quality/etc. Consider what it would feel like if this were already true in your life. Think back to a time in your life where you HAVE experienced it and bask in that feeling for a bit. Own that feeling.

Don't even know what that might feel like? Maybe it's something that you truly have never experienced in the past. Well, you'll have to use your visualization techniques a little bit harder then! Imagine how you will feel. But when you do, don't imagine it as something happening in the future. Imagine it as something that has already manifested!

The third part of the equation has to do with energy. This is something that is two-fold. On one hand, it relates to the physical energy that you will put out into the universe in order to manifest your dream. This could mean, putting the energy into applying for particular jobs that get you closer to your goal; or taking whatever steps in the mundane world that you know will bring you that much closer. 

On the other hand, it also speaks of spiritual energy. And in this way I am speaking of taking time to meditate and focus on your goal. Lighting a candle, using incense, holding certain crystals or stones... really making a ritual experience out of your time. You are basically doing the spell work needed to help manifest your desire. Putting your desires out into the universe and allowing the elements of earth, air, water, fire and spirit to do what needs to be done!

What are some of the other ways that you have been successful in manifesting what you desire into your life? If you've had a difficult time with it in the past, I encourage you to follow this formula and share your results! If you have any questions, I'm only a click away!!

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Until next time!

~ Heather

Women: Take Back Your Power! 5 Steps to Empowerment

There's a buzz word going around and it is "empowered". Now as a woman and small business owner, I have had many different experiences of being and feeling empowered. And that got me thinking... were these experiences just random? Or are there specific things I can do in my own life to feel empowered all the time? (Or at least MORE of the time!)

Let's take a look at some of the best tips for feeling empowered! Ladies, it's time we took back our power and lived in that reality!!

1. Set your boundaries... and KEEP them!

This one is something I've been working on lately myself. Oh, I am pretty good at setting my boundaries, but keeping them and sticking to them is another story all together! So, what this means is figuring out what you will and will not accept from others. We know that we can't change someone else, but we CAN change our response to other people. That's what is important. This means knowing when you need to say "no" to other people. Knowing what behaviors and actions from other people that you will or will not accept. The harder part of this, for me anyway, is sticking to these boundaries. What this involves is really standing up for yourself. Being able to verbalize that you are not able to do the thing that may be asked of you; and knowing that you don't owe anyone an explanation as to why that is!

2. Surround yourself with other people who appreciate and respect your boundaries.

What this means in a nutshell is - surround yourself with your tribe! These are the people that support you. The people that treat you as an equal and not as someone lesser than they are. And on those occasions when you do meet someone who tries to treat you "less than"; you'll have the backing of your tribe for support and to help you to feel more empowered. These are the people that will cheer you on in your endeavors!

3. Treat YOURSELF like the Queen that you are!

You are beautiful and powerful! But that doesn't mean a damn thing if YOU don't believe it! It's important to realize your own worth and value. Accept that you are gorgeous in your own rite and own that! Take time during your day to work on YOU. That means taking time to become the best version of YOU that you can be. Maybe that means working out a bit, taking a course, or even just taking the time to relax in a quiet, soothing tub. Whatever you need to do to treat yourself the way you would expect a queen to treat herself is what you should be striving for here! You are worth it!!

4. Be your own best cheerleader!

We all have those negative thoughts that creep into our heads on a daily basis. "I can't do that because XYZ", "I'm just not that good yet", and so on. It's normal. But those thoughts don't define us and we don't want to dwell on them. Make a conscious effort that when those thoughts enter your mind, you'll replace them with a positive thought. For example: when the self defeating thought of "I can't possibly do a live video recording" pops into your mind; you'll want to recognize it as a self-defeating thought and replace it with a positive thought such as "I have worked hard and that training has absolutely equipped me with the knowledge and confidence I need to do a live video recording!". You control your mind! 

5. Know your truth... and OWN it!

What does it mean to know your truth? Well, that simply means that you accept who you are, what you do and what you hold true and dear. It means living authentically without concern for other peoples expectations for you. It involves being comfortable with those things and you won't feel guilty about what your truth is!

What are some other ways that you've stepped into your own empowerment? If you've done any of the things mentioned above; what were your results? Share your success stories in the comments below!

~ Heather

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4 Myths About Manifesting

We talk a lot about manifesting the reality that you desire; and we've even discussed some steps to take to implement the process of manifestation into your life. But what happens when things don't seem to be coming to fruition? 

Well, lets talk about some of the myths about manifesting today!

Myth #1: You always have to be thinking positively... 

Well, no.... not exactly. In fact, it's probably highly unlikely that you can even possibly be thinking positively at ALL times. We will all face negative thoughts during our day. Sometimes these thoughts can seem self-defeating. The trick here is to acknowledge the negative though, try to determine where that thought is coming from, and move on from it. We don't want to dwell in that thought pattern. It's normal to have them, but often times we tend to sit and linger in that negativity for a bit longer than we should. Recognize it. Search your mind and heart to determine what place this thought is coming from... most likely a place of fear. And finally, set it aside. Move forward from it. 

Myth #2: We can manifest whatever it is that we want... new car... new relationship... new job.... 

If this statement were true... we would all be driving brand new, fancy cars; be in fabulously perfect relationships and have that dream job making $1000 per hour working one hour per week! It isn't enough to just "want" something. The truth is that we have to "believe" in it. Part of the concept of manifestation is that we have to fully embrace the "thing" as though it is already reality. Knowing it in our minds, feeling it in our very being and experiencing the very emotions that we know we will have, with such reality that it's as if the "thing" is already a done deal. It is more than just a fleeting desire. It is more than a visualization technique. 

Myth #3: Manifesting is self-serving and egocentric.

For the most part, we are manifesting for our own lives... and this may seem self-centered and selfish. But, really, we are only really in control over our own lives. It's not our place to manifest for someone else as we can't truly know where their desires lie. My oldest son lives in Hawaii and works and lives in a small farming community. His lifestyle is primitive in my eyes. He is never online, never checks email, rarely uses his phone.. and has poor service there anyway! Most we look at his situation and wonder why I wouldn't want to manifest a great, high paying job for him. After all, doesn't every parent want their children to be successful? Well, the fact is, in his eyes he has found success. He has found his niche and place of happiness. If I were to successfully manifest something like that for him, he would undoubtedly be miserable! Instead, I could focus on manifesting in my own life, things that I would be able to offer him- giving him the option to accept or not. 

Myth #4: We must keep our vibration high at all times.

This myth goes hand in hand with the myth about remaining positive at all times. It is unrealistic. Our vibrations will fluctuate throughout a day, a week and so on. I don't think I have ever even known someone who has a "high vibration" at all times. It's human nature to have low periods. But much like the positive thinking issue, the point is not to dwell in that place! Furthermore, not all things being manifested necessarily require a super high vibration. In fact, I have (whether inadvertently or not) manifested many things in my life that I did so in a less than high (but not necessarily low) vibrational state. You need to be at the vibrational frequency of that which you desire to manifest. For my son to realize his dream of living off the land in Hawaii, he didn't need a super high vibrational frequency for that to happen! 

What are some other myths that you've found with the laws of manifesting in your life? 

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Are Your Ducks in a Row?

Do you have you're ducks in a row?

People seem to always say things like.. "you've got to have all your ducks in a row." Well, sadly (maybe), all my ducks are rarely in a row. In fact, they seem to be like little duck ninjas just rambling all over the place most days! 

Oh, sure, there are those days when I manage to make a list and actually check everything off on it by the end of the day... but those days aren't typical by any means. In fact, many days I seem to be operating in a more "aimless" fashion.

Getting into a routine

I've found that when I try to keep a routine it seems to help me to "keep those ducks in a row" a little bit better! 

But what kind of routine, you ask..

I start my morning kind of early; getting up to get the kids on the bus. And I have always hated waking up like this. Waking up abruptly to the sound of an obnoxious alarm clock. It makes me crazy! If I am dreaming, this makes it really hard to remember the dream and write it down. So, I've gotten in the habit lately of going back to bed for a few hours. 

So, when I wake up from my "second sleep" ;) I am able to focus on any dreams and start off with a meditation. This keeps me grounded and centered for the day ahead. This isn't anything long, drawn out or even guided... just a simple meditation that I do myself before getting out of the bed. 

The next part of my morning ritual that I've found helps make my day more productive and keeps those ducks in check; is setting my intentions for the day. For me, that means writing it down. I suppose this is like a list... but for me; if I don't write it down I'll forget all about it. When it's written in front of me; even on a piece of scrap paper; I am looking at it frequently during the day. Much like a mental mantra. 

All that is good, but now I need to make sure I've got the energy and motivation to work that intention! The best way I can do that is to raise my vibration. And the way I do that is by listening to uplifting music. There are lots of other ways to raise your vibration but that one seems to be most effective for me. Another way is by exercising... but I'm not a fan. I will, at times, do my sit ups really quickly to get a vibrational boost... but at this point it's still more of a chore in my mind than something enjoyable! 

Doing these three steps helps me to keep my ducks in a row, get things accomplished during my day and keep me focused on the bigger picture. And on those days when my ducks are just not cooperating; that's okay... I take those crazy days and allow my soul to rest. I let my mind have the day off. 

What are some of the ways that you keep your ducks in a row everyday? Do you have a routine or morning ritual that helps you? Share your thoughts in the comments below! 

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Just a Random Cat?

Friday morning, I was woken up by some ruckus going on in the kitchen. As I grudgingly dragged myself from bed to see what was going on, I heard "meow". Well now, we do have a cat... But she's not exactly the sweet meowing type. In fact, as a die-hard cat lover for over 40 years, Flower had managed to cause me to re-evaluate my stance in just one short year.

Flower

So, anyway, I heard this meow and went to see what madness was taking place in that kitchen. My sig other was in there holding an orange Home Depot bucket and quickly rattling on about how he found this kitten outside and was trying to put him in the bucket. His plan was to take him to his job and pawn him off on someone there. His plan failed miserably.

"But a bucket!" I said... "I'd be scrambling to get away from you too if you were trying to put me in a cold bucket!" Any self-respecting cat lover knows that cats love boxes not buckets!

I went in to wake my son up so I had some assistance in this unwelcome morning venture, because while I do normally get up that early, I'm not usually functioning at more than a basic, rote, almost robotic level... And I go back to bed after I put the girl child on the bus. I'm pretty sure the synapses aren't firing until after 9am and several cups of coffee.

As I was standing over my sons bed, shaking his arm a bit with one hand and clutching a frightened kitten with the other hand, he looked up at me with partially closed eyes. I need help with this cat I told him- let's go, you've got to get up. "I just had a dream that was so weird" he said "we were out in the garage and we found a kitten." I looked at him a little quizzically.

As we tended to him throughout the day; feeding him, washing him and snuggling with him; we watched as he transformed from a skiddish kitten to a bit more comfortable and accepting of our efforts. It was then that the kids decided to name him Random Cat… because, in their little minds, it was just so random that he showed up in our lives.

We pondered the journey that Random Cat must have been on before coming into our lives. Was he abandoned by his mother who may have been a stray? Was he tossed out of a car window by a heartless owner who didn’t want kittens around? We will probably never know what experiences Random Cat had to go through before he ended up in our carport. We know he was out in the rain and that he hadn’t had much to eat in a few days at least. That much we know. But as for the rest of his journey, we can only guess. But somehow, for some reason, he ended up seeking shelter in our carport.

One of the things that got me really thinking about Random Cat and his story is that my daughter, who is 8, has been trying to manifest another pet into her life for the past six months. She’s gone from wanting a dog to a cat and of those she vacillated between different breeds; switching up every month or so! And when I say she was trying to manifest this, I am dead serious! She used positive affirmations, magic and even went so far as to truly believe that her new pet was already here… she just couldn’t see him yet. I began to wonder a bit- did she manifest her pet… or did Random Cat manifest a better life for himself? Or maybe it was a little of both.

So, you see, Random Cats name is a bit of a misnomer. It serves as a constant reminder that sometimes, just sometimes, the things that seem random aren't really random at all. Sometimes the universe conspires to bring us the exact right people at the exact right time... And there really isn't anything random about that, now is there?

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When it rains it pours, but when things go right... look out world!! How Like Attracts Like!

Doesn't it always seem like when one thing goes wrong, all of a sudden it seems like everything starts to tumble down? 

But on the other hand, when good things happen, it seems like more good things seem to follow?

Everything in life is made up of energy. When we put off negative energies, we tend to get more of the same coming at us. However, when we are putting off positive vibrations, more positive seems to come into our lives. This is the law of attraction in action! 

So, what do we do to change the negative into positive? And how can we keep that positive energy coming in?

Well, it's important that we use positive affirmations... but those positive affirmations are not entirely effective unless you really put in the emotion behind them. If you just lost your job, simply saying out loud "I have amazing and fulfilling employment" probably won't get you a new job. But if you add the emotion behind that affirmation- really FEELING what it will be like when you have that new job... feeling it as though you already have it... that puts added power behind that affirmation. Couple that with the down and dirty mundane work of applying for positions; and you'll be surprised at what you can accomplish! 

When the negative stuff starts trying to weed its way into our lives, that's when we have to step back and refocus on what energies we're putting out there. About a month ago, a clients' business prospects were at a point where they were looking pretty bleak. We looked at the comments he was making and the thoughts he was having surrounding this set-back. He was encouraged to change his mindset about the business and the financing issues. He spent time every day saying his positive affirmation and really feeling what that success was going to feel like when it happened. He visualized loans going through and buyers clamoring to purchase his product. Within two weeks, loans that he had applied for had gone through and new buyers seemed to come out of the woodwork! 

Remember that we need to put out into the universe that which we want to be plentiful in our own lives. If you want more love, you've got to put out more loving vibes. If you want more money (yes, money is just another energy) you've got to break free from your fear of losing or not having money. Visualize that which you desire in such clarity that there is nothing else for it to do but to materialize in front of your very eyes! 

What are some other ways that you're able to put out into the universe more positive energies and vibes? What tips and tricks have you found for those times when the negative starts to creep back in? 

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